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Sin of Abuse


Admitting the problem and seeking help

Abusive behavior is found in all socio-economic levels, in all educational, racial, and age groups. Abusers can be men or women. Abusers are conditioned to vent their anger, which has a low “boiling point,” by abusing someone either physically or verbally. They tend to have a low self-esteem, think of themselves as failures, and don’t relate with other people very well. They want to control others who become their targets of abuse. This desire to control may be the abuser’s belief they are promoting the “good” of the family or the relationship. Abusers will offend others without feeling any guilt and without any remorse, even after they have admitted having the problem.

If you are a person who has abused those close to you, you must be willing to face the reality of what you are doing. God values all people – He sent His only Son to die so that you could have a relationship with Him. God desires that you cherish other people, His people, and treat them with love, having the highest regard for their welfare [Ephesians 4:32]. Children especially are adored by God: “Jesus said, ‘Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven’” [Matthew 19:14].

Abusers justify their behavior believing their victims goad them to point of abuse. If you are an abuser it is important for you to know abuse in any form, for any reason is sin, and it is destroying your spouse, your children or any other person you are abusive toward. To continue in your behavior is to destroy even your own life. God is the defender of the victims of abuse. He holds abusers accountable for their abuse of others.

God forgives the sin of abuse if you are willing to confess your abusive behavior as sin, and look to Him for correction and deliverance. God is merciful. When we confess our wrongdoing and turn away from our past sinful behavior He forgives us [1 John 1:9].

God wants to deliver you from your destructive behaviors, and He can change you through the “renewing of your mind.” Immersing yourself in His Word, the Bible, every day and becoming involved in a good Bible-teaching church that preaches the gospel is a good place to start. Establishing a relationship with your pastor, and being accountable to him or her during your renewing is a good idea. Abuse is a serious, deep-rooted problem requiring counseling, and your pastor can help you by referring you to a professional Christian counselor.

Your life, and the lives of others, will take a wonderful turn for the better if you earnestly seek God’s help. His Holy Spirit is going to shine a light on your darkest parts, and reveal to you what you need to change when you seek Him. “Search me, O God, and know my heart; try any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting” [Psalm 139:23, 24

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